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Our wedding was just over a month ago; our Hawaii dinner “reception” was last weekend. Do you think I’ll ever stop saying, “Where did all the time go?”

People have been asking us how it feels to be married, to be living the part of life that comes after planning a wedding. Honestly, it still doesn’t feel all that different. Travis still takes the trash out on Sunday nights, does his own laundry three loads at a time, and washes the dishes after dinner as I sprawl across the couch watching silly tv shows. I still call him up to see what he feels like for dinner, go grocery shopping, and clean the cats’ litter box. We still haven’t really managed to find time to sit still or vacuum or deal with the pile of cards on the table. Sometimes he calls me “wife”; sometimes I call him “husband”. I am still signing my maiden name for credit card purchases. I answer to my new married name, but I’ve yet to refer to myself as such outside of work.

Travis says if we did it right, nothing should really feel all that different.

Maybe it’s because we’d already combined our finances into a joint account, so we’re in the pattern of who balances the checkbook and transfers money into savings. Maybe it’s because we still have separate accounts, so I don’t have to answer questions about the shoes I buy and he can order whatever homebrewing equipement he wants. Maybe it’s simply because we’re older and we knew what we wanted before we ever got here.

I’ve also been asked if it’s a relief not to be planning a wedding.  Honestly, the hardest part of planning the wedding was writing out these huge checks; I’m glad we don’t have to do that anymore!  Also, our wedding-related tasks aren’t really over yet.  We have thank you cards to send out (do we send out generic ones or get some printed with photos?), decoration boxes to unpack (do we use the big green vases, donate them, or try to put them up on a wedding site for sale?), and a “registry completion” event to go to (Travis is really sick of our drippy coffee pot).

Funny story: The other night I made salsa and pulled out the food processor bowl that came with my old blender.  It’s larger than a mini chopper (which I love) but way smaller than a stand-alone food processor.  Travis asked why we don’t have a bigger food processor and I joked that it’s because no one bought it off our registry (I was joking! I am in no way ungrateful for the many generous gifts we DID receive!)  I’m guessing the coffee maker and food processor are two items we might be looking to grab for 20% off.

Related side note: From our registry, someone did get us the hand mixer and microloft sheets, items I half-heartedly put on the registry to begin with. The former because I hadn’t felt I needed a new hand mixer after my old one broke, the latter to appease Travis’ love of soft, flannel-y sheets.  Well, I now love the mixer because it turns out there are quite a few things I make that are too stiff for hand whisking but not large enough to warrant pulling out the KitchenAid.  And the sheets? Let me just say it’s like being enveloped by the softest blanket ever, from head to toe, but they’re sheets, so they aren’t stiff and heavy.  Love them.  At some point, it’ll get too warm and we’ll have to switch to summer sheets, but as long as the nights are cool we’re keeping them on the bed.

I think I lost my point. Where was I?  Oh yeah, the wedding’s over, but we still have a lot of things to do before we return to what I call “normal life”.  And that doesn’t even include the ancillary tasks involved with getting my name changed.

So, I’ve set some goals for myself:

  • Make a decision on thank you cards and get them done before Travis disappears for a week at the National Homebrewing Conference next month.  I have the list nicely organized, so I think this can go quickly.
  • Write up some wedding re-caps and vendor reviews before wedding pictures get blogged by our photographer.
  • Make a decision on what to do with the wedding decorations (and billions of candles and votives) and then just do it.  If you know of anyone who would like about 100 used votives (I think the small candles may be melted down already), some large green candle vases, clear glass flower vases, or LED tealights, please let me know.  I have no time frame on this, but maybe I’ll get it done while Travis is occupied with his conference.
  • That’s actually as far as I got with my goals. 

The cat picture I just threw up there because it’s cute.  It’s cute the way the cats have completely made themselves at home when, at one point, we thought we’d always have to protect them from becoming a Sadie-chewtoy.

Happy Cinco de Mayo! Ole!

Actually, this post has nothing to do with Cinco de Mayo.  But, today is the 5th of May, so there you go. 

We have returned from our Mediterranean honeymoon as newlyweds, faced with a pile of mail, boxes of decorations, and loads of laundry.  The trip was wonderful and I’m happy to be home.  I do want to send a letter to Royal Caribbean about the cruise, as well as one to Holland America to let them know why I wish they had offered the itinerary we took instead.  I am also regretting not smuggling in a few tiny Greek kitties that we saw in town, as the ones we came home to are much larger than I remember.    

I can’t thank our friend Ben enough for house/pet-sitting for us while we roamed the Greek Isles for two weeks; the dogs were happy to see us but not crazy for human attention, which tells me they were well taken care of in our absence.  Knowing someone was keeping them company made it much easier to be gone for so long.  We came home to 3 dogs, 2 cats, and 3 chickens, and as far as I can tell, they’re the same ones we left. 

We also came home to a slideshow of a few wedding photos, which made me tear up a little bit, but also made me smile since I got to see some photos of the boys getting ready.  I want to put all of them on huge canvas prints and cover the house with them.  I can’t wait to see the rest… it’s like reliving our wedding all over again, which I find quite fun.  I wish we could have a wedding all the time, but without all the planning, effort, and payments.

Our to-do list is still quite impressive – unpacking, thank you cards, vendor reviews, write ups and recaps… but we’ll get through it.  What do you want to hear about first?

And then I partied even more (not really)

Okay, one more post about me… and then it’ll be more posts about me?  Well, I guess that’s what you get when you read my blog.  Ha!  I’d be remiss if I didn’t tell you about the fun (yet still low-key and not crazy) night Darlene organized for us blogger gals.  Jenny, Marie, Mary, and Canine Cologne came out to wish me luck before heading into married life and we started at The Wellington.  I’ve mentioned before how lucky I am to have been introduced to these wonderful blogging ladies, and I still feel this way.  Not only is it fun to be able to talk blog and food talk with other people, but they’re so much fun to be around.  And, of course, they have great taste in food!

Some not great photos of very good appetizers – shrimp and polenta and a goat cheesy artichoke dip.  I did get a Pretty Princess martini, which was pink, pretty, and fit for a princess.  We chatted, nibbled, drank, chatted some more, and then were on our way to The Gathering for some dinner.

Canine Cologne brought along some tasty little chocolate chip cakes from Hans & Harry’s, and I can safely say that they also went well with morning coffee.  Versatile! Dessert that doubles as breakfast!  Once those were finished, it was getting late (for a school night) and we headed on home.

Darlene did provide everyone with some party favors – cheese Kit Kats! (The tiara was just for me.)  It tasted more like white chocolate and cheesecake, but the smell was definitely cheesy.  One of those things that tastes better than it smells?  It didn’t smell bad, but it definitely smelled like a savory cheese.

I don’t think I ever told Darlene that these Zero Calorie gels (slim & slim!) were actually pretty tasty.  Travis said the purple grape one tasted just like a peeled grape.  The grape ones were better than the mango, but they were fun to eat.  They must have worked, because I fit into my wedding dress like a dream!

Thank you, Darlene, for coordinating everyone’s schedules and getting us together for a good time.  I hope we get to see each other often throughout the rest of the year!

And then we partied

Again, I didn’t take many pictures of our bachelorette party weekend.  It may make me a bad blogger, but I was too busy enjoying myself and the company of three lovely ladies to think about pulling out my camera.

The boys spent a long weekend in Vegas for Travis’ bachelor party, so we took a not-quite-as-long weekend up to the Central Coast so I could revisit some of my favorite spots in and around San Luis Obispo.  Cami found us a cute little rental house in Cayucos, which ended up being perfect and way more fun than a hotel.  It also ended up being the Zinfandel Festival weekend in Paso Robles, which meant lots of fun wine stops AND food tastings.

Our first stop in SLO was Firestone Grill for their tri tip sandwich.  This is a sandwich I still think about, years after leaving SLO and Cal Poly.  It’s a sandwich so good, Travis thinks about it every time someone mentions tri tip.  I have yet to find a sandwich anywhere else that is equally satisfying.  I don’t know if it’s the garlic bread bun, or the sauce, or the tender tri tip, but it’s amazing.  I wish I had one right now.  April didn’t understand why we were making such a fuss over the tri tip until she had one, and then she jokingly asked if we could get one for breakfast.

It started pouring just as we ordered, so we stood around this little wall bar until the table next to us left.  And once we were done, we ran back to the car in the pouring rain.  I’d complain about the rain, but it made a nice backdrop for the mineral hot springs we went to later, plus I think it kept the crowds away from Paso Robles.

We had a sort-of game plan for Paso Robles, but really we just ended up going to the wineries that had the tastiest foods set out.  We started with one where they were grilling duck breast and lamb chops, then headed to one with the crepes stand (and lots of barrel tastings).  There was one with chocolate fondue and Fritos, red vines, brownies, and shortbread (and, um, wine).  And one with a Vegemite tasting bar (verdict = salty and weird and not for us).  That one was Croad, which had a New Zealand background.  I bought a fancy bottle of wine there for Travis and I to store in an anniversary box.  I know, in total, we stopped at six wineries.  But, we also split a tasting at each one, so I don’t think anyone got too tipsy.  It made for a really fun day!  We ended it with a stop at a cheese shop, picking up a cheese plate and other nibbles and then we played games back at the rental house with a bottle of wine.

Cami had made us all matching shirts, which were adorable, and had our names and “roles” on them.  I wish the weather had been nicer so we weren’t always bundled up in jackets, but we knew we had them on!

No late nights, crazy clubbing, or even drunken antics, but it was exactly how I envisioned my bachelorette party – spending time with the girls I love and just enjoying ourselves before the craziness.

Wedding Shower

Ok, so I didn’t take a lot of pictures of my bridal shower, but I did want to acknowledge the amazing day hosted by two of my bridal party girls since it turned out beautifully and I know they put a lot of work into it.

We were greeted by little Leilani, who was wearing a purple lei and on her best behavior all day long.  We feasted on Honeybaked ham, croissants, salad, olives, cheese, and then a Nothing Bundt Cake.  I was gifted a pair of fuzzy handcuffs, some comfy nightgowns (nightdresses?) I’ll actually wear, and many other lovely gifts.  It wasn’t a large party, nor was it a rowdy party, but it was fun and enjoyable and just what I wanted.  Thank you, Cami and Abbey, for my lovely shower!

the wedding shoes that were (and weren’t)

I had to clear my memory cards so there’s plenty of room for photos of Greece, which means you may actually get some posts while I’m gone.

These are shoes I bought just a couple of weeks before the wedding.  It really wasn’t my fault – Zappos.com had just made me a VIP member and Macy’s gave me 30% off if I bought 3 pairs.

The ones on the lazy susan (I wonder if Travis knows I put my shoes on the dining table…) are Enzo Angiolini’s and were beautiful shiny blue, but they squeezed my toes just a little too much.  I thought they would probably stretch with wear, but for $100 I didn’t love them enough to find out.  So, I returned them.

The other three came from Macy’s – Rampage, Marc Fisher, and Style & Co.  The Rampage ones (with the blue bow) were too cute to pass up, I needed some new black heels for work, and the fancy blue ones on the right ended up being my wedding heels.  They have a platform, so the height isn’t too bad and they ended up being the perfect height for the dress.  I love them and I’ll definitely end up wearing them on a day to day basis.

I also ended up ordering some wedding flats, which was a good decision since I ended up wearing those flats for most of the night.  Super comfy yet cute blue Clarks. I’m wondering, though, if my decision to change into flats made my dress drag a bit lower, and that’s why I kept getting stepped on… or maybe I would have gotten stepped on anyway.

And then, since we’re talking about shoes, I ordered a new pair of Privos (I LOVE Privos) because I needed a new pair for walking around in during our cruise.  I mean, obviously, the five pairs of Privos I already own wouldn’t do. They are super comfy and I’m wondering which pair I should wear on the plane.

Technically, these shoes don’t all fit in my shoe closet, but don’t tell Travis…

wedding teasers

I should be packing, but that’s boring, and looking at some teaser photos of our wedding is WAY more fun.  I promise, once we get back from this little trip of a honeymoon, I will gush all over the internet about our wonderful vendors, but for now, you can gaze at the cuteness that is us.